Every now and then I write a Facebook post that becomes too long for Facebook. Tonight was one of those nights.
This article about Finding the Courage to Work as a Homemaker and stay at home wife (yes, you read that right. We’re talking about stay at home wives here – not mothers) popped up in my Facebook feed. I’ll admit that I was baited into clicking it. “How much courage could a woman possibly need to be a stay-at-home wife?” I thought bitterly to myself. As it turns out, she has as little need of courage as I – a single woman living on her own – does. Maybe less.
The article compare the lavish, two-income lifestyles of today to the smaller, one-income families of the 1940’s-1960’s. It points out the smaller homes, one car families, and packed lunches without taking into account all the modern conviences we have at our disposal in this day and age. The modern, 21st century woman can cook dinner in a crockpot, bread in the bread maker and cookies in he oven; while the dishwasher does its namesake; a load of clothes dries and one washes; and still have her hands free to vacuum!
And before I get too far in my critique of this article I’d like to point out the obvious: a stay-at-home mom is a noble, and worthy cause! I was raised by a stay-at-home mom, and I hope to give that gift to my children someday. But you bet your bottom dollar I will be working up to the day of that first child’s birthday! Why? Because I believe that the roll of a wife (and husband, for that matter) is a helpmate. I’m in a good spot in my chosen field, and I make decent money. That’s good money that can be invested. Saved for a rainy day. Put towards our retirement. Donated.
Look, I have nothing against stay-at-home mums, but I just think there’s a reason stay-at-home wives went out of fashion! As a single woman living on her own, I know the struggle of keeping house and working, but l make it work. Because as a responsible adult, that’s what you do. In any given week I: work 40 hours; grocery shop; cook fresh, healthy dinners for myself; pack lunches; clean my flat; work on decorating my flat; hand wash all the dishes; wash laundry; workout multiple times; spend time with family; and still have time to watch far too much Netflix! So why, – with two people and all the modern conveniences of our time – does it take one person 40 hours a week to keep house? I mean, making and selling jewelry is fine and all, but couldn’t we women contribute more to our life as a couple? Couldn’t we better emulate the Proverbs 31 woman by finding the time to keep house on top of our jobs?
God calls us to be hardworking, when no one else is, and to be different from the rest of the world. So how can we sit there and stay that we are being our best example of the Proverbs 31 woman when we’re doing half of what the rest of the population is doing (keeping house but not earning a paycheck) in the same amount of time! That’s not the woman I see when I read Proverbs 31. The woman I see does twice what the rest of the world does. She supports her husband to her fullest extent and he calls her blessed. That is the woman I want to be.