“Under the umbrella of your father’s protection.”
If you’ve ever heard that phrase before, chances are it’s because you’ve grown up in a conservative, homeschooling family. It’s a phrase that’s used to extol the virtues of staying home with your parents where it’s “safe” and where you can “practice the art of homemaking” until you get married.
In my adulthood I’ve grown to have some issues with this phrase. So here’s my clap back:
Here are three ways I am under the umbrella of my father’s protection as an independent woman living on my own:
1. My father (and my mother as well) taught me to be safe in this world. They taught me to read the fine print, trust my instincts, do my research, and pay attention to my surroundings when I’m out jogging – among other things. They trust me and have faith in my ability to make it in the world without constantly peering over my shoulder to make sure I’m making wise choices.
And I will never forget the first time I showed my dad the apartment in which I now live.
I was going to put a deposit down on it and asked him to come with so he could see it. He looked around, told me how nice it was and then noticed that the deadbolt slid into a hole in the wooden door with no metal plate to reinforce it. He asked me landlord to fix it before I moved in, because it could easily be kicked in. Me, my mother, and my sister had all looked at the place without noticing that! Proof that even though I no loner live with him, my dad is still looking out for me. Which brings me to my next point:
2. I’m never outside of my father’s protection because I know that there is nothing I can do that is bad enough to stop me from being able to call my dad and ask for help at any time. I know that no matter what I do he loves me and will be there for me. Any father that won’t bend over backwards to protect his children even after they leave his home doesn’t deserve to be called “dad.”
3. I know that moving out of my parents house and living a life “independent” doesn’t mean living independently of my Heavenly Father. Nowhere in the Bible does He command women to stay with their parents till marriage, therefor -despite what others my say – I have committed no sin and am still under the protection of God. This doesn’t mean nothing bad will happen to me, but it does mean that He will work everything for His glory.
So what do you think? Am I off base or would you ever move out of your parents home before marriage?